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Mar. 17th, 2019 09:31 pmOkay one more thing, and I am really not trying to throw shade here, but we live in a modern world working on accountability and these things come up.
Say, you have a friend, and at some point some bad consent went down between you and you whoops sexually assaulted them. You've talked about it, and you're still friends.
ESPECIALLY if you're attracted to them but as a rule of thumb, you need to 100% stop initiating physical contact. They may never be comfortable touching you again, and friend, you gotta deal. But let me tell you from experience, if you stand too close or say for example casually grab their hip in passing or trap them against the wall in their personal space... friend, you are blowing that second chance.
Maintain that friendship? Keep a generous amount of personal space. Operate on the complete assumption you will never have a continued/resumed sexual relationship. Otherwise you need to be honest and tell them you just can't.
Say, you have a friend, and at some point some bad consent went down between you and you whoops sexually assaulted them. You've talked about it, and you're still friends.
ESPECIALLY if you're attracted to them but as a rule of thumb, you need to 100% stop initiating physical contact. They may never be comfortable touching you again, and friend, you gotta deal. But let me tell you from experience, if you stand too close or say for example casually grab their hip in passing or trap them against the wall in their personal space... friend, you are blowing that second chance.
Maintain that friendship? Keep a generous amount of personal space. Operate on the complete assumption you will never have a continued/resumed sexual relationship. Otherwise you need to be honest and tell them you just can't.
